“Should Parents Ask a Baby’s Permission Before Changing Diapers?” – Expert’s Surprising Advice Sparks Global Debate
An Australian sexuality educator, Deanne Carson, has caused a worldwide stir after suggesting that parents should seek their baby’s consent before changing their diapers. While the idea sounds unconventional to many, Carson insists it’s about teaching respect and consent from birth — not waiting until children can talk.
Carson, who works as a sex educator and speaker, says parents can begin this process simply by narrating their actions and watching for non-verbal cues — like eye contact, facial expressions, or movements — before changing a diaper. For example, she suggests saying, “I’m going to change your diaper now, is that okay?” and pausing to read the baby’s response.
She explains that this approach helps build trust and awareness early on, encouraging babies to feel that their bodies and boundaries are respected. Supporters say it promotes healthy communication and emotional intelligence, while aligning with modern parenting trends that emphasize mindfulness, consent, and empathy in everyday interactions.
Pediatric experts often remind parents that infants communicate constantly — through coos, cries, and body language — long before they can form words. Carson believes that by recognizing these signals, parents can nurture a child’s sense of agency and comfort from day one.